Sex After Childbirth – Can It Be As Exciting As It Was Before?
Though according to doctors it is safe to resume sexual intercourse one and a half months after childbirth, for most of couples hitting the bedroom can still be unexciting, dull and uncomfortable.
Breastfeeding, hormonal fluctuations, post pregnancy blues and above all stretch marks make the sex uninspiring for a woman whereas man is filled with bewilderment and confusion because of a new responsibility of bringing up the child.
It takes time for him to adjust with the change of family situation with the arrival of a new member.
Both man and woman are too tired and irritated to get cozy together. Even when they get an opportunity to be with each other, their baby seems to interfere with their togetherness.
If you have been facing all such situations that made it difficult for you to resume sexual intimacy, here’s an action plan on how to restore your sex life.
Communicate feelings to each other
Communication is the key to physically and emotionally come close to each other again. Exchange your feelings wondering how to indulge in fun-filled activity together and have sex again. Also discuss the ways to feel as sexy as both of you were doing earlier.
Perform pelvic floor exercises
A woman experiences cervical and vaginal stretching during childbirth. Though cervix starts narrowing and firming up a week after delivery, vaginal muscles remain loose.
So, it is necessary to perform pelvic floor exercise for tightening the vaginal muscles so as to make the vaginal intercourse pleasurable and exciting.
Avoid intercourse in the beginning
It is good to avoid intercourse in the beginning. Rather focus on oral stimulation. Apply massages besides having long baths together. Bathing together will certainly make both of you feel sensual.
Try new positions
The sex positions that you had enjoyed earlier cannot necessarily become enjoyable and exciting this time because of the lack of proper lubrication with hormonal changes. So, you would better explore new positions that may lead to better lubrication and make the sexual intimacy exciting and pleasurable for both of you.
Plan time for sexual intercourse
You can consider having sex after leaving your baby with your family or relative for some time. You have to be selfish to some extent if you want smoothness and enjoyment in your sex session.
Have intercourse even when you are not in mood for it. Once you start having sex you will enjoy it. Even five minutes of regular sex session can be better than not having intercourse at all because this will bind both of you together as lovers and parents.
