If your marriage has reached a stage where divorce seems really close, then it’s time to put serious efforts and mend the situation before it is too late. Yes, you can take control of the situation and resolve the problem but only if you know what steps to take.
The first step that will help you get closer to your spouse is improving the communication between yourselves. An open and honest communication helps a lot in maintaining and improving a relationship. This will also help you to eradicate any confusion or misunderstanding that had arisen from any communication gap.
Work on yourself and your appearance. Make yourself attractive so that you can attract your partner once again like those earlier days when he was head over heels for you. Bring back the love and passion in the relationship. You must begin by getting the feeling of being in love yourself.
Thereafter express your genuine affection to your partner. Slowly and steadily the love and passion will rekindle in his heart too. Never try to change the feelings of your partner to sort out the problem, just try to make him understand and remind what he truly likes and loves – both in you and your relationship.
If there is any third person involved in your relationship which is causing the trouble or who is helping create or increase differences between you two, then find out ways to remove that person from the relationship.
Try to understand and meet your partner’s needs and expectations. If you need to change certain aspects of your life along with the changes and demands of time, then do not hesitate to make the changes.
It’s difficult to control anger during arguments. But it is important to do so in order to restrain yourself from using wrong words which may damage your relationship for ever. And keep in mind, that differences and arguments are a part of every relationship. You can not and should not avoid them. Rather learn to deal with them. Also, don’t make it a dominating relationship. Both of you should have equal say and rights in the relationship.
Finally, reclaim your confidence and self esteem and try to resolve the root cause of the problem.