Relationship Issues : Insecurities Women Face
She may be cool and composed when she goes out with you. But you continuously notice her insecure glances now and then and wonder as to what could possibly be wrong. The answer is simple. Your woman is insecure about you and the relationship.
Many women face several insecurities in life and feel the same even if they are well settled. And one of the greatest insecurity they face is that of a commited relationship. Women are very sensitive when it comes to dating and relationships and feel insecure about the same no matter how strong the bond is.
So if you are going out with a female you think is insecure about the date, here are a few helpful hints to boost her confidence and make her warm upto you.
Post First Date Jitters: Many women are under the impression that they will not be asked out twice by the same person. If you are going out with a female for the first time and say you will call her the next day, don’t forget to do the same.
Women feel very insecure when the guy who promised to call them doesn’t call on the promised date. If you don’t want to be definite about the day you want to call her, give her an indefinite answer (say you will call within a week or so).
If you promise you will call her, keep your promise. This will help in building trust in the relationsip instead of shattering the same on the first date itself.
Show your interest: Never keep a woman guessing! If you are interested in a woman, let her know about the same. For example, if you are going out with a bombshell, don’t feel apprehensive or shy to tell her how pretty she is.
Even the most beautiful women feel insecure about their looks at times and need to get some kind of positive comment from their date. Things like calling her after the date, sending her flowers or small gifts can help her realise that you are really interested in her.
Be honest about multiple affairs: Come on! Face it! No woman likes to share her guy with another woman or even other women for that matter. It’s okay to play the field and date multiple woman as long as you are honest about it. One of the topmost questions your girl is going to ask you on your first date is whether you date other women.
If you do, say yes. Trying to hide any details of your affairs can get you into a mix if she comes to know about the same later on in the relationship. Even worse is the fact that she might dump you if she found out that you are a casanova after sleeping with you or after the two of you have become serious.
The Right Time: The first impression a woman is probably going to get when you ask her out is that you just want to sleep with her and push off. Most if not all women think the same and this is one big issue that needs to be handled with care.
Not attempting to take your relationship to the next level might make her feel that you are hanging out with her just for the heck of it. On the other hand, if you try to make a move too fast, she might think that you only want to sleep with her and nothing else!
So what exactly do you do in these situations? The best advice would be to wait for a while before attempting to take the relationship to the next level.
Be sincere about the same and communicate your wish to your girl. She will probably get the message and start giving you the right signals when she is ready to get serious with you.
Performance Issues: Just like men, many women feel stressed to perform well in bed. This anxiety and pressure can remove the pleasure of sex completely. If you notice your girl attempting too hard to please you in bed, let her know that she can be relaxed and that is how you want her to be.
If you find her performance unsatifactory, communicate the same to her gently instead of showing your dislike. This way you can help her to perform better and in the process enjoy her company in bed.
Is he cheating on me?: That’s probably the first question your girl is going to get if both of you are in a commited relationship or are married. Many women feel insecure about their partner and if you happen to be an extrovert, you can bet your girl will definitely feel insecure about the way you behave with others, girls in particular.
Be honest and don’t try to hide even the simplest of things from her, especially if it concerns another girl (not necessarily another woman in your life). If you feel she is getting suspicious about your behavior, address the same with her. Don’t let her insecurity grow to the point where she doesn’t trust you anymore.
It’s okay if you are a flirt, but try to avoid flirting with other girls or reciprocating the same when you are with your woman. Women feel very insecure when their guys flirt in public and you would probably want to refrain from getting into a fight with her the moment you reach home. Sideline flirting escapades to when you are out alone or with friends.
Fading Attraction: Does your girl constantly bicker that you are not attracted to her anymore? If yes, then you are not alone. Many women feel their partners lose interest in them a few months into the relationship and start picking up fights over the most trivial issues.
If you are in a commited relationship for the past few years and your girlfriend feels you don’t love her anymore, reassure her that you will always love her no matter what. Try to surprise her with flowers, gifts or even late night dinners.
Women feel very insecure about lasting relationships and need to be constantly reassured about the same. By doing so, you will be successful in keeping the romance and happiness alive in your relationship.
