Marriage- An Adjustment
Marriage is looked upon by some as a contract between two persons. The question often arises if the contract will last. Since it involves two person’s it is obvious that the couple has to learn ways and means of adjustment to each other, each one has to change a few habits to please and suit the other partner.
Problems do arise at some time or the other in almost everyone’s marital life, but if one is prepared for them then, it only serves to make the marriage more secure. In a happy marriage both the partners should be ready to compromise after a heated quarrel. They should not view each other as eternal foes.
No two persons are alike; indeed the best way out of a difficult situation is to go through it. One can learn many constructive things from the quarrel itself. At times the marital discord can take place because both are working and a change has taken place in the spouse’s career. The change could be in the form of a promotion which is making the other partner jealous.
In such a case all that is needed is a little bit of awareness. This can be brought about by talking things out and by taking cognisance of the fact that the promotion will be a boon for the both of you. Compatibility in a matrimonial alliance is always desirable. The husband and the wife should have a more or less similar course of thinking only then can they please each other fully.
Another important aspect of marriage is sexual adjustment. If the couple cannot satisfy each other’s sexual needs then the marriage is bound to be an unhappy one. Each has to feel from the innermost recesses of his or her heart for the other. It has to be an act of natural love and not a purely mechanical performance especially in this modern age, which is unfortunately bereft of emotions.
Try understanding your spouse and make adjustments to suit one another in order to make the marriage work. It is not always necessary to give in but handling a situation calmly will do wonders for any marriage.
