How To Build Self Confidence
Lack of confidence is a basic problem in most of us. There are common situations when two college mates, having the similar degree when they pass out, find themselves in two completely different situations after they enter the professional world.
The girl, who may might have been quite mediocre in educational career, may hold some of the most strong posts in corporate sector since she is considered ‘suitable’ to face the world more aptly. Whereas the one, who might have been brilliant and more superior in educational skills, might discover herself still struggling to put herself into a good job.
This can often lead to depression for the latter case. There are other instances too when some of us repeatedly fail to meet up the dead line to complete our projects on time, prepare reports and even fail to meet our domestic requirements on time. These disturb our self confidence and make us irritated and loose out confidence.
Once confidence is lost, it repeatedly makes a blow to our belief in our capabilities and positivity. Hence, this becomes a recurrent problem when the instances of repeated failure keep on continuing and affects the confidence level further. So, what must be done to improve your condition and boost up your self confidence?
Try to analyze your faults
Realize that nobody is perfect. So you do not need to think that you have a hell lot of shortcomings and should need to escape from everybody. Before letting people point out and criticize your negativities and inabilities, work out yourself to find out which are your greatest and strongest inadequacies. It is best when you find them our by your own self and sort them out amicable.
You will never feel embarrassed that way. Rather your negativities will also make you realize your positivity in the process and capitalize on them. Comprehend that the negativities that are your drawbacks are the positive traits in some others. Similarly, the positive attributes that you possess are also your assets that make you score over a lot of others.
Open up to your friends and close ones
There are many instances when you fail to realize your own demerits. Actually, we either hole very high or low feelings about ourselves. This makes us incapable at times to analyze us critically. In such situations it is totally foolish to stay clustered within own self. That you only add up to your lack of confidence. The best way is select a friend or someone very close to you.
Have discussions with them. They would never criticize you mockingly, rather assist you in finding what mars your confidence. Not only this, they will also help you in working out simple ways to solve those factors, thereby gaining your confidence. This way, you will not feel embarrassed too as your friends are there to help and not abuse you or make you ashamed.
Try to work on your positivity
Instead of pondering on what is the wrong side in you, lay more stress on the merits you have. Project that positive aspect in front of people. Try to work on it more so that your positive aspects get enhanced. This way your negative attributes will get suppressed to a greater extent. Suppose you tend to fumble while talking, which often embarrasses you in public.
But at the same time your attitude makes you popular among children. So, instead of living inside a shell, try to mingle with more and more children. Spend leisure time with the children in your locality, arrange for sports, cultural programmes or picnics together with the children. You will gradually become popular among them which will eventually hide away your fumbling.
Be thankful for what you have
It is always very positive to be content and satisfied what we have and not brood for what we do not have. If we start to contemplate on the things that we do not have, then the list will only become endless and add up to our further frustration and sat a hard blow on our self confidence.
The most amusing thing is, human wants and desires are endless and nobody seems to be happy with whatever he or she has. So it is futile pondering on what you lack and get distressed and add up to our negative feeling. Rather think of your positive traits and be thankful that you are gifted with those qualities.
Be happy at others success
An effective way to boost up your confidence is to praise others. If you become cynical about others success that means that from within you are getting unconfident that you are lacking behind and someone else have the capability to achieve that destination.
This will bring out negative feelings and frustration in you and affect your confidence level. But one you get happy at others success and praise them it will show your high confidence level, that you are not negatively moved by the matter and have the capability to excel in your own field too.
Inculcate constructive hobbies
Channelize yourself in some constructive leisure time activities like reading good story books, journals, newspapers, listening to music, watching good quality movies etc. it is often said that idle brain is devil’s workshop.
Quite rightly, if you get free time, without anything productive to do at all, you will start calculating on what you have and what you lack. This will simply generate useless negative feelings and make you unconfident. So utilize your leisure in a better way.
Love and take care of yourself
When you look good it adds up to your confidence level. So take proper care of yourself to reflect your inner beauty, health and zeal as well as your outward aesthetic qualities. Not every individual is born a Mr. or Ms. Universe.
But right grooming, healthy lifestyle, good habits and exercises are to reflect in you. As a consequence, whenever you see the mirror, it will revert back a confident image of yours which is always a good complement for you that will add up to your level of self esteem and confidence.
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