Family Ties – Loving Grandparents And Caring Grandchildren
Are you one among those who feel proud to be born into such a family or among those you really try hard to strengthen family ties?
Though family consists of many relationships in it, in this article you will find how the ties between the grandparents and grandchildren can be reinforced. A constant effort from all the people in a family, be it the grandparents, parents or grand kids, should be made to hold the family members close to one another.
Luckiest of the lot, grandchildren in a family enjoy the maximum attention and care. But there are many things that they should bear in mind while mingling with their grandparents.
Understanding and Respecting Your Grandparents
Your grandparents are those who suffered a lot in their lives to raise your parents. They are the ones to take all the pains and sacrifice their joys only to see your parents happy. They were the ones who shared with your parents, the joy of your birth. They are still continuing to sacrifice their part of comfort just for you. This thought would help you mitigate the disagreements with them, if any.
Grandparents can either be staying with their grand kids or away from them; there should be a deep bond of affection between them. Grand kids should learn to respect and obey their grandparents. Even if they speak or act anything that you do not comply to, never react in a way that hurts them. Talk to them in a pleasant tone and make them understand their mistakes. They will surely listen to you because they are always yearning to.
Be For Them
Your grandparents are in a stage of their lives where they are accompanied with lots of ailments, restriction of free movement and scores of medicines. Adjust benevolently to their shortcomings. Take care of their health and show your concern for them. You can literally play the role of pain-killers for them.
More important is that you understand your grandparent’s feeling of despair if he or she is alone. That is, if one of your grandparents is deceased, the other will be left with a feeling of total aloofness and indifference. Pay more attention to your lonely grandparent and try to make them believe that you are always there to support him/her. And be true to your word.
Acquaint Them with Today’s World
Just imagine how they would be feeling in the modern world that is too different from what they have witnessed in their young times. It would be worse without their partner to share their feelings. They might be enduring an alien life. Tell them some really fascinating things about modern life. Take them out for shopping or any events that you enjoy and have fun. Give them all the comforts that you can afford to. This need not be in the form of precious gifts or money. Your mere presence would mean a world of joy for them.
They can be your Best Friends
Believe it or not, your grandparents can prove to be your best friends in the whole world if you give them a chance. Your secrets revealed to them will be like pebbles in a well. They will even fight for you to see you smile. Do not forget that they are the only ones who have power to make your parents obey. Make use of this power to get permissions sanctioned from your parents for things which you failed to obtain.
Make them Feel Special in the Family
It would be very kind of you if you plan something really special for them on special occasions like Birthdays, Christmas, New Year or any family get-together. There are chances that you find tears in their eyes for being treated this way. Know that they are not tears but blessings for you that would definitely be redeemed in your later stages of life. You will surely feel contented for what you have done for them.
Hold Them Close to Your Heart
Lucky are those who have their grandparents to rain unconditional love on them. Hold them very close to your heart and show all your love towards them in your words and deeds. Try not to hold yourself back in draining them with your care for you may regret it some day for missing them forever.
Being the Best Grandparents
If a family is embraced with grandparents, it has the perfect picture. More organized and disciplined are those in a family who share their space with the grandparents. At the same time there are certain factors that the grandparents should heed in bringing up their grand kids.
Having a grandchild is God’s way of giving you another chance to live your past life. You should see the grandchild as your extension through your kid. Be confident because you are the most experienced here. You can be the best grandparents ever on this planet which adds to your self-possession.
Familiarize Them with Nature
Often grandparents have lot of time to spend with grand kids as the parents will be working. Take them to the park; show them the varied variety of plants and animals. Bring them close to nature as much as you can. Also tell them about the hidden dangers in nature like falling into water, poisonous creatures etc.
Splashing Love without Spoiling Them
Give them all your care and affection but beware of the dangers ahead. There are chances that if you agree to all their needs, they take you for granted. Learn to say ‘no’ even if you think it may make them cry. After all, you be for their good. They will understand everything some day.
Befriend your Grandchild
Making friends with your grandchild has many benefits. Your health improves in a friendly household. Your grand kids confide in you so that you advice them appropriately. This avoids lots of mistakes from their side.
Never Try to Induce Discipline
Remember that your grand kids already have people to discipline them, their parents. So leave this matter to them. You should calmly advice them to obey and be good to their parents. Teach them the importance of family values. Grow hobbies in them and ways to utilize time. Teach them the importance of saving and spending wisely. Being a caring grandparent will make your grandkid remember you fondly forever as their role-model.
A Word to the Parents
Right from an early age, parents should inculcate the traits of respect and obedience in their kids towards everybody in the family. They should be taught to love and understand their grandparents. Remember, all this can be achieved successfully if and only if you show respect and behave to your parents with much care and affection. Your kids reflect you in the long run. Teach them the habit of sharing too.
Talk with your parents about your kids for they spend more time with each other. Discuss matters so as to bring more dignity into the family and its members. Make your parents feel proud for having such a wonderful family. Remember, ‘What goes around comes around’.